We’ve made a lot of progress in recent years in changing the narrative around older people and sex
But have we gone too far? Delia Lloyd asks whether we’re at risk of talking about romance and intimacy in a way that underscores what’s different across generations, rather than what they have in common.
An old friend got in touch not long ago to tell me she was working on a memoir. She was writing about what it was like to start dating in her mid-40’s, after ending a long, largely sexless marriage. She asked me to take a look at an early draft.
I was expecting stories of lame pickup lines, mediocre pasta dinners with would-be suitors and long walks in comfy cardigans. Instead, I found myself reading frank and detailed accounts of sex clubs…threesomes…and, well…fit. (Yeah, that kind of fit.) In short, her memoir wasn’t so much about dating as it was about sex.
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The manuscript was raw and refreshing.
